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Introduction

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The future of the church truly depends on reclaiming the home as the primary context

for discipleship. Too often, churches unintentionally take on too much responsibility

for families, creating well-meaning programs that can inadvertently disempower

parents. Studies reveal a sobering reality: over 90% of parents lack an intentional plan

for the spiritual development of their children. This gap presents a critical opportunity

to rethink how the church partners with families.

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In this resource, designed specifically for pastors and church leaders, we offer a

comprehensive assessment tool that will help you evaluate the current balance of

discipleship responsibility between your church and the families you serve. Our goal is

to help you identify strengths, uncover blind spots, and create actionable next steps

toward empowering parents.

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Why Assess the Balance of Discipleship?

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The Problem

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• Overprogramming: Churches create abundant children’s and youth ministry

programs but often neglect empowering parents as primary disciple-makers.

Parental Disengagement: When church programs become the main spiritual

influence, parents can become passive or disconnected from their children’s faith

journey.

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• Unintentional Enabling: Without intentional equipping, parents may rely too

heavily on the church to do the spiritual “heavy lifting.”

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The Consequence

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• Faith formation becomes event-driven rather than life-integrated.

• Children’s faith may not be sustained once church programs stop.

• The spiritual legacy within families diminishes.

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About the Assessment

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This tool is divided into key sections designed to help your leadership team reflect

honestly and strategically:

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1. Vision & Philosophy

• Does your church articulate a clear biblical vision for family discipleship?

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2. Programming vs. Empowerment

• Are church activities designed to supplement or substitute parental

         involvement?

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3. Parent Engagement

• How equipped and encouraged are parents to lead spiritual formation at

          home?

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4. Training & Resources

• What opportunities exist for parent discipleship training?

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5. Culture of Discipleship

• Is there a culture that celebrates and supports discipleship as a family

          responsibility?

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Each section includes reflective questions and scoring guidelines to benchmark your

ministry’s current status.

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How to use the Assesment

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1. Gather Your Team: Include pastors, children’s ministry leaders, and family

ministry volunteers.

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2. Complete the Assessment: Discuss each question to reach a consensus score.

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3. Review Results: Identify areas of strength and opportunities for growth.

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4. Set Goals: Develop specific, measurable actions to better equip and empower

families.

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5. Implement Changes: Commit to shifting from doing for families to equipping

with families.

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6. Repeat Annually: Track your progress and recalibrate your approach.

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Moving Forward Together

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Reclaiming the home is not about reducing church ministry but realigning our focus to

the biblical model where parents are the primary disciple-makers, and the church

equips and supports them. By shifting our posture, we can spark life-changing faith

journeys that begin at home and flourish in the community.

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Download “The Church vs. Home Discipleship Assessment” today and take the first

step toward equipping families to build faith legacies that last for generations.

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For questions or personalized coaching, contact Ben at ben@chooseourlegacy.com.

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Legacymakers — Empowering the Church to Reclaim the Home

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